Ok, let's see... much stuff happened since I last wrote about this:
1. We decided to take DHCP and DNS Proxy Roles out of the NVR. Still the problem persisted
2. We then decided, to enable VLAN routing on the 5530 for each vlan, put the NVR on a different vlan, and make it the default gw of the ERS5530, so only the internet traffic would actually hit the NVR. No luck yet
That was yesterday (Wed) and at 9am the VPN Router gives an alarm of "Max Connection Reached". When that happens, all the things the vpn has to contact (DNS Servers, SNMP Traps, etc) gives also an alarm (which seems kind of logical).
3. I decided to lower a bit the number of connections to 15,000 to avoid the "above 75% of memory used" alarm, which worked fine. Still getting the "Max Connection Reached" alarm. When that happens, Internet traffic gets very very choppy. You have to try serveral times for a link to connect. When it connects, no problem. You can even download at full speed.
4. We finally decided to install a Demo of Nortel VPFM and run it to see what's going on. Today was a local holiday, and i didn't see a problem there (i vpn'ed in). Let's see how it behave/detect tomorrow, a working day.